I’m not really either a Republican or a Democrat, but I probably lean more to the Democratic side in politics. However, I have certain Republicans that I like.

I really loved Bob Dole’s wife, Elizabeth. I was sort of hoping she’d make a run for the presidency a couple of elections back. I’d like to have seen someone like her become the first woman president.

I also thought Mike Huckabee was okay. He seemed very even keel and fair-minded. I would’ve been okay with him getting the presidential nomination when he ran for it in 2008.

However, this week I was very disappointed in him when he decided to single out Natalie Portman (of all people!) as an example of a celebrity sending a bad message.

“One of the things that’s troubling is that people see a Natalie Portman or some other Hollywood starlet who boasts of, ‘Hey look, you know, we’re having children, we’re not married, but we’re having these children,’ and they’re doing just fine,’” Huckabee told radio host Michael Medved on Monday. “But there aren’t really a lot of single moms out there who are making millions of dollars every year for being in a movie.” (Excerpted from “Mike Huckabee criticizes Natalie Portman for being pregnant and unwed)

Natalie Portman? Really? That’s who you decided to go with, Mr. Huckabee?

When I first heard about it yesterday I just shook my head. Many were speculating he had made the comment in an attempt to start making a bid for the 2012 presidential nomination by winning over social conservatives.

All I could think was, “That’s not a very smart move. Natalie Portman is an accomplished, brilliant, extremely likable celebrity who’s not gotten into any of the trouble half her contemporaries have. Even social conservatives might be put off about him singling her out.”

But then this morning I listened to a clip where Rachel Maddow said he didn’t do it out of some political maneuver. Her theory is he’s got his sales hat on. He’s on the book trail. This was all about PR.

Which almost makes it worse in my mind. Bristol Palin is not any kind of celebrity of the magnitude Natalie Portman is. She certainly hasn’t contributed to society in a meaningful way like Portman.

Yet, thanks to her mother and her own efforts (like her appearance on Dancing with the Stars), she’s become a pseudo celebrity. Why not single her out? She’s an unwed mother, too.

Especially if you’re looking to create controversy. Imagine what kind that would stir up blasting one of your own party member’s daughters?

But if he did that, he’d jeopardize pissing off Palin supporters I guess.  So better to pick on a Hollywood “starlet” who does make millions and is financially capable of supporting her own child, rather than the daughter of a former Republican governor who’s relying on mommy and daddy to support both her and her child.

Which is exactly the point he was trying to make, isn’t it? How often so many unwed mothers are poor and can’t support themselves?

And I disagree that Portman’s intent was to “glamourize” having children out of wedlock. MTV does that way more than Portman ever could. Their “16 and Pregnant” tries to show the unglamourous side of having kids out of wedlock at a young age, but guess what? I think it has exactly the opposite effect because it shows girls on TV who are the focus of attention. Just the very thing most teen girls desire most.

At the end of the day, whether he was trying to make a point or sell books, I don’t think Huckabee used very good judgment singling Natalie Portman out. There are far better bad role models he could’ve chosen from.

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Wayne’s out of town on assignment again so last night after volleyball I had complete control of the TV. We both watch Glee but we’re two weeks behind on episodes due to our cruise. (Well, maybe only I am. Wayne sometimes catches up before work in the mornings when I’m still in bed.)

Anyway, I watched the episode where Bieber Fever took hold of the Gleeks. And where Sue got so depressed and joined Glee Club for a while.

At one point Will takes her somewhere to try and snap her out of her funk. It turns out to be a pediatric cancer ward where he sings to the kids once a month.

Kids with cancer get me tearing up something fierce these days. After my experiences with cancer, it breaks my heart seeing children having to endure treatments that can bring adults to their breaking points. It’s just not right!

Anyway, so I was already emotionally vulnerable as the scene started unfolding, but as they got ready to sing and I wondered which song they’d go with, I turned into a blubbering mess as they started singing “This little light of mine.”

That was the song I’d sing to myself to get me through, especially on the hardest or scariest of days. It just sort of came to me the first day I was home from the hospital standing naked and scared in the shower wondering about my future. All I knew was I wanted to live. I wasn’t ready to check out. I was determined to beat this thing and find an inner strength to make it through no matter what.

Suddenly, from somewhere buried inside, I started croaking out “This little light of mine.” It was a song I hadn’t sung since I was probably a child. I don’t even know how I thought of it, but there it was, just coming out on its own.

It was just a whisper at first, but you know what? It felt good to sing it. The lyrics were powerful. They filled me with strength and courage.

So I started singing it louder. I started envisioning a light glowing brighter and brighter in my belly and radiating outward. Then I started feeling empowered. And hopeful. I felt like my little glowing light was going to shine so bright on that cancer that it couldn’t help but melt away! I was going to be positively beaming with health, dagnabbit, because my little light was not ready to flicker out. I had a lot of shining left to do, and cancer wasn’t going to steal that from me!

I sang that song a lot. Sometimes in the shower as loud as I could. Sometimes in my head when I got scared at doctor visits. Sometimes in bed at night when worry wanted to rob me of sleep.

Kind of weird. Another theme in that Glee epsiode was anthems. If ever oh ever there was a cancer anthem, “This little light of mine” is it.

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Yesterday I tuned into Today right when Willard Scott was doing his Smuckers birthday segment. I always get a kick out of watching it. I can remember back to when he used to do babies, but then they switched it and now you have to be at least 100 to try and get your birthday featured.

I always get a kick out of what they credit their secret to long life to. Some say things you might expect to help you live a long life. Such as, trying to be a good person, going to/serving in church, eating right, etc. Others say things like laughing a lot, gardening, eating what they want.

Some note that they’re still living independently. Others note that they lived independently until a certain age. Willard even mentions that for some over 100 they tried to get on the show before and he congratulates them for sticking around to do it this time.

But yesterday he featured a woman who was either 103 or 104 (sad, I’ve already forgotten) who was a three time cancer survivor. I was floored. And so inspired.

I want to say Willard has noted other cancer survivors who lived to 100 also, and some who even got it very late in life (like their 80s), but a multiple time cancer survivor?

I mean to tell you, that’s one tough cookie. Having watched my mom go through it twice, and finally succumbing to the lung cancer the second time, then just five months later dealing with my own lymphoma, mentally it’s taken its toll. Not every day, but definitely every week, I still have to deal with my emotional scars from it all.

I know if the cancer does come back, or shows up in one of the other forms I’ve been warned I’m at an increased risk of getting now due to my treatments, I’ll buckle down and deal with. But it would be hard. I think even harder than the first time because I’d know what to expect to some extent.

I think it was sort of a blessing not to know just how sick chemo was going to make me or the toll it would take on my body even after it was done. You can read all you want about other people’s experiences and know you’re going to feel “sick” but experiencing it…whew. Different story.

But then if you need surgery, or get sick during treatments and need to be hospitalized…there are so many things that can go wrong during treatment to delay your healing progress. Again, if it does all you can do is deal with it, but it weighs on your mind.

Yet, this woman survived Life, including three bouts with cancer, to live past 100. Wow.

That someone did gives me a hope and way of looking at the future I hadn’t had but have been desperately needing. So glad I happened to catch her birthday of all of them. I sure hope she had a happy one yesterday. She might not know it, but she ended up giving a gift while she was celebrating.

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Kindle, Kindle, Kindle. That’s all I hear about anymore. It started off with all of my reading friends raving about loving their Kindles. That was last year. It seemed every time I saw a Facebook post it was about how much someone was loving their Kindle.

This year every time I turn around I see people promoting a book they’ve written and are distributing on Kindle. Many of the same reading friends are also writers so they’ve been amongst that set. But so have many of my blogging buddies.

And they all keep touting the same thing: They’re fed up with regular publishers. Why go with them when Kindle (and Nook) make it easy to publish yourself and offer a royalty rate that can’t be beat?

They pose convincing arguments. I have yet to look into publishing via either Kindle or Nook, but my interest is piqued.

I have to wonder, though, if everyone starts publishing on their own this way, who’s going to be submitting to the small, independent epubs that have sprung up in the last 10 years? (And have also shut down. Many of the ones I started out following are no more. But taht didn’t matter. New ones cropped up every year to replace the crops that folded.)

But why would anyone bother with that route now?

Also, what happens to the quality? Even though people hate the submission and acceptance process, and, granted, many good books probably do get passed over, there’s a whole lot of them that never should see publication. Or that might be okay, but need editing.

Again, since I haven’t looked into it all more, perhaps there is an editing process. From what I gathered, it didn’t sound like it though.

So what happens to editors? Even though they can be pains, they’re necessary and helpful pains. They mean well. Plus, they make books stronger.

All I know is the times they are a changing. There could be a big revolt on this decade’s horizon for the publishing industry as a whole. Both for the small time independent pubs as well as the big daddies.

I’ll be curious to see how it all shakes down. If it even does. Ebooks were supposed to revolutionize and transform the industry last decade. Didn’t quite happen. But maybe technology has caught up to make that  viable threat now? Kindle sure has a loyal following, if that’s any indication of anything…

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My big eyed beauty Tabby girl

My big eyed beauty Tabby girl

Where the heck does the time go? How is it possible the little kitten I saw get run over in the middle of the road that cold Friday February afternoon and stopped to help has already been with us four years?

I was thinking it was only three. Even that seems impossible. But she had to have come into our lives in 2007. In 2008 I started dealing with other dramas. I know she was here for those, so that means we got her the year before. Which makes her four.

Ah, my little Lady Tabitha, Tabernathy, Tabberkins Pryor. (I gave her Wayne’s last name because it flows better when I say her whole name.) What a disaster she was when we first got her!

Talk about one wild kitten…who was still just a kitten really, not even a year old, but unbeknownst to us she was preggers. Likely she was lying dazed and confused in the middle of the road like she’d been because she’d just finished doing the deed. (Or getting the deed done to her. I’m not sure she was old enough to look for nookie without nookie being introduced to her.)

Anyway, when she started acting nuts towards Mr. Meow to the point of unrelentingly harassing him and not letting him go anywhere in the house, we took her to the vet. Maybe being spayed would help. That’s when they discovered the babies.

So she had an abortion, got fixed, and came home and got an infection that nearly killed her. After being rushed back to the vet and staying there two days, she was free to come home and start tormenting Mr. Meow again the moment she started feeling better.

Poor Mr. Meow…he spent the first six months of her arrival cowering behind the chair in our living room. He had to sneak to his litter box. If she knew he had to go, Tab would often sprawl out in front of the nearest one, forcing Meow to go to the other, farther away one. And then she’d lay in wait until he was done and chase him back to his hidey hole.

Oh man, she was ruthless! Mr. Meow hated her!

But now? They still fight. Especially over who gets to lay in my lap on the couch or who’s turn it is to snuggle with me in bed. But they’re also buds and play pals.

They've learned to share!

They've learned to share!

And she still loves her Murphy as much, if not more, than the first moment she saw him. Murph is definitely her favorite brother and the love of her life.

She's purrfectly content sharing with Murph. Always has been.

She's purrfectly content sharing with Murph. Always has been.

 

"What are you two doing up there? Stay out of trouble!"

"What are you two doing up there? Stay out of trouble!"

Except for maybe her Papa. If his lap’s available she’ll gladly relinquish mine to Mr. Meow to perch in Pop’s lap. She is definitely a Daddy’s Girl!

Nappin' with Papa is Tab's favorite thing!

Nappin' with Papa is Tab's favorite thing!

Tab, I know you can’t read but I’m writing this for you anyway. I love you. I knew the moment I swooped you into my arms and rushed you to my car that you were my baby girl. You were the one that made me understand how moms who have just given birth and get to hold their babies in their arms for the first time must feel. Such a rush of warmth and unconditional love.

Thank you for being such a special girl. Thank you for all the love and laughter you bring into our lives. Happy birthday, baby! We love you!

Perched atop her scratcher I got her for her 3rd bday

Perched atop her scratcher I got her for her 3rd bday with a toy she got at Christmas

 

Sunbaking beauty girl

Sunbaking beauty girl

 

Lounging around in the sun room...sunbaking of course!

Lounging around in the sun room...sunbaking of course!

 

"MY hoop!"

"MY hoop!"

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Part of her toy collection

Lady Tabitha, Tabernathy, Tabberkins Pryor - my baby sweetie girl!

Lady Tabitha, Tabernathy, Tabberkins Pryor - my baby sweetie girl!

 

 

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I had a big idea last year that I’d write a blog called the Sociable Scribe and maybe start a social media consulting kind of company. I love social media and I love using it. I’ve also had some mild success using it to promote my blogs and such, so it seemed like a good idea.

I started working for my cousin’s stationery company doing her social media even. I actually loved it, but, as with any job, it took time away from what I most loved. Namely, Haunt Jaunts and my fiction. And heaven knows I don’t need any help stealing time away from my fiction. I’m good enough finding ways to squander that precious time as it is.

During our big New England/Canada cruise last summer I did some soul searching like I do most vacations. I realized my Sociable Scribe business either needed my full attention, or I needed to turn my full attention to my other passions. I knew with Halloween right around the corner things were going to get super busy on HJ, so…I had to figure it out fast.

I’m in the fortunate position that Wayne supports me financially. Otherwise, if I really had to start bringing in some dough I probably would hit it hard and see if I could contract my social media services out.

Since I don’t need to, I decided to keep pursuing my passions and let go of stressing about becoming a successful businesswoman.

Yet, I often see things that bug me about other people’s blogs or blogging styles. Or that really impress me. I don’t want to focus a blog on it, because there are already a ton of blogs out there doing that and doing it better than I could.

Last night it dawned on me, “I can still write about that stuff. And I can still use the Twitter account I set up for that. I can use that for my personal blog.”

I’ve been wanting to Tweet not as Haunt Jaunts, not as SAHW Experiment, but as me and my many interests. I could always set up a @CourtneyMroch Twitter account I guess, but I’d rather brand myself. (Because that’s just how big my ego is…I need a brand. I hope if anyone reads this they read this part with sarcasm, because that’s what’s intended.)

Anyway, so once in a while I’ll now be writing about the art of blogging as I see it. And I’ll be Tweeting as @SociableScribe and sharing my links here there that way.

Watch out Twitter. Here I come again!

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We’re heading to New Orleans soon to take our fifth cruise. I’m very excited not because it is yet another cruise and four more ports to add to our list, but New Orleans is the home of my ancestors.

But as I think about my beloved grandma who grew up there, I’m reminded of the grandma I knew from Phoenix. That’s where she lived when I knew her. However, she always spoke of New Orleans when she shared memories of her youth with me.

As I wish she was alive now so I could ask her exactly where it was she lived there, or where it was that Aunt Pearl was murdered, or where it was she met my grandfather, I think about visiting her in Phoenix.

Ah, that humble and modest, yet marvelous two-bedroom apartment she and my grandpa shared. I loved going there. I loved picking figs off her tree and eating them fresh. I loved walking around the side of the house and plucking off oranges and grapefruit and having them on hand for snacks. (Well, the oranges. I hated grapefruit back then.)

I remember how we’d always hit the same places on our visit: Christown Mall, Cave Creek, and sometimes Tlaquepaque if time permitted for a drive up to Sedona.

Before my parents divorced my dad would always insist on driving us everywhere. Grandpa would inevitably fall asleep in the back of the car. Gram would tease him to wake up and he’d say, “I’m not sleeping. I’m just looking inside of myself.”

At dinner she’d serve Grandpa his obligatory shot of tequila, which every stinking time she set it down in front of him she’d say, “Here’s your Ta Kill Ya, Ferdinand.”

And every stinking time he’d nod appreciatively, raise the glass at her, and down it.

Which made me laugh every stinking time.

As I’m recalling my fond memories of my grandparents, I remember how I thought nothing would change. We’d always go visit them. They’d always live in that apartment off Meadowbrook Road. We’d always build such great memories.

But those times feel like a lifetime ago now. My grandpa passed in 1986. Gram died in 1999. I’ve since established new traditions. Life has moved on.

But the heart still remembers. And it wishes my grandmother, the consumate navigator, could guide me to the magical places she remembered from growing up in New Orleans. The places that when she recalled them made her lips curve into a smile and her eyes twinkle with happiness. I’d like to see them.

I wonder if she ever felt this way. That the traditions and routines she’d had in New Orleans would never change. Did she ever look back on her life and wonder that she’d lived in Mexico, Indiana, and then wound up in Arizona?

I think she missed New Orleans sometimes. Or, maybe like I’m doing now, it was more a matter of being overcome by the nostalgia of life as it once was. The minutes tick by, the days pass, and before you know it you’re carried forward to new traditions.

All I know is I’m certain she’ll be on my mind as we explore her hometown. Which I’m also certain has changed a lot since she lived there.

I now know that’s how Life works. It’s ever-evolving.

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I’m already a winner

Posted by: courtin Life in General
30
Jan

I’ll never have a big ego. All my life the Universe has had a funny way of putting me back in my place before I can get too high on myself.

Last week I was so hyped up about being nominated for an award and being singled out at tennis for doing something right. I wouldn’t say I was getting a big ego from it, but there was a little extra strut and swagger in my walk.

And there was that little voice in my head thinking, ” ‘Bought time I get some recognition around here!”

Uh huh. Riiiiight.

That’s always about the time Life slaps me upside the head and reminds me to simmer down now. That’s what happened last Friday when I lost control on a patch of ice and slammed into a rocky bluff.

Poor Nissy bore the brunt of my vanity

Poor Nissy bore the brunt of my vanity

As I sat waiting for another officer (there was one on the scene, but he had to wait for another unit) to come do the accident report and give me an incident report number for my insurance, all I could think was how silly I’d been earlier in the week.

Even that very day. My feathers were pretty perked up at being noticed.

But the accident was a humbling reminder that that sort of stuff just doesn’t really matter in the scheme of things. It’s nice, sure, and it’s appreciated, but I can’t get caught up in it.

Also, a reader’s comment on one of my Haunt Jaunts posts reminded me if I ever feel in need of validation, I need look no further than my family. No one is ever going to be more impressed by me or love me more or think me a big winner than Wayne, Murphy, Mr. Meow and Tabby.

Nominations, awards, or any other kind of recognition? Extra icing. Tastes nice and looks pretty but in the end its unnecessary superficial finery. It doesn’t define me or keep me warm at night.

But my family? Their love is award enough. As long as I have that, I have everything.

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I won’t go into all of the gory details of how it came to be Wayne and I found ourselves in the family planning aisle at Target tonight. Suffice it to say we did, and suffice it to say I saw some things that made me go “Hmmm….”

DETERMINE THE GENDER 

Since I have never been pregnant, I have never had to wonder what sex my baby will be. I knew there were tests that would tell you aside from sonograms. I didn’t know you could buy them in Target now, though.

You can. It’s called the IntelliGender Gender Prediction Kit. Interesting.

PERSONAL MASSAGERS

Small and discreet

Small and discreet

Now you can even get personal massagers at Target! Just the fingertip versions. Very small. Very discreet. I’m surprised there hasn’t been an uproar about this.

I mean, I can’t help but wonder if Target sold male masturbation aids some group somewhere would be up in arms and calling for a removal of the product from shelves or a boycott of the store. But it’s okay for women.

Or is it?

Maybe someone somewhere will throw a stink about it once they figure it out. I can think of a whole lot of uptight women who would be shocked at the prospect of what amounts to a type of dildo for sale in a store where their kids might see it. They’d want the sale of such things to be confined to adult stores. (As long as those adult stores were nowhere near their side of town.)

I think it’s freaking hilarious. I was half-tempted to buy one myself just to say I did.

PORTABLE CONDOM CARDS

 

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Portable Condom Card?

I had to snap a pic of this next box so I’d remember it right. (Plus, I’m lazy. It was easier to take a picture than break out a pen and scrap of paper.)

What the hell is a portable condom card?

I had to look it up when we got home. “Discreetly carry condoms wherever you go, so you’ll always have one when you need it.”

Huh. So it’s the same thing as a business card holder, just for your condoms. (Which, for some, and depending on their line of work, might be like a calling card.)

The name makes sense now, but really? Did they have to go there and come up with such a thing? Whatever happened to just keeping condoms in your wallet?

At any rate, I certainly got a lot of food for thought at Target tonight!

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Mr. Meow’s tube is OUT!

Posted by: courtin Pet Mom Life
28
Jan

Mr. Meow is now the tubeless wonder! Yesterday at his checkup he had continued to maintain his weight by eating on his own with no goo tube feedings from me. Dr. Stumb felt it was time to remove his feeding tube.

Hallelujah!

They were able to remove it right then and there. Later today I can take his bandage off. (He pretty much was ready to have it come off last night. He shredded it pretty good. I think only the tape part is left. I believe he managed to unravel all of the gauze and pull it out on his own.)

I’m a little hesitant to see the hole in the side of his neck for the first time. I’m just SOOOOO immensely thankful we had an option like the feeding tube to try and that Dr. Stumb didn’t automatically write him off as having cancer and being a goner. She at least tried to treat his for the Tri-itisis, and it seems that was a good gamble as it must’ve been what he had. If he had cancer he should’ve kept on deteriorating.

I can’t thank her or the staff at Southside Animal Hospital enough. All the vets are great there. Dr. Singleton saved Tabby’s life back when she got an infection after her spay surgery. She became our go to vet after that. Both Murph and Tab love her, but not Mr. Meow. (Except that’s not unusual. He really doesn’t like anyone.)

But when Dr. Singleton was out over Thanksgiving and Dr. Stumb was on duty, that’s who we rushed Mr. Meow in to see. He didn’t fuss as much with her. I wrote it off that it was just how sick he was.

But during this feeding tube trial (which has called for multiple vet trips), it’s become apparent of all the vets he’s ever seen, he fusses least with Dr. Stumb.

So…since she can manage him she’ll be his vet. Murph and Tab will still see Dr. Singleton.

But I have to wonder…is it a Courtney thing? Dr. Stumb’s first name is also Courtney. Sort of funny.

I’m just glad he’s still allive and kicking. The feeding tube was sure an adventure, but…it worked! I’m very thankful we had both the time and money to pursue that route. Even if Mr. Meow lives to be 25 (WOW! That’d be some kind of miracle wouldn’t it?), it’s going to be way too soon to say goodbye to him.

Others only get to see his cranky, ornery side. But he’s my little kitty soul mate. He’s definitely left his paw prints all over my heart. So glad he’s still around!

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